Stress seems to be an inescapable part of life, doesnt it? I remember one of my lectures on stress I always thought stress just came from a high workload, but woah, I was wrong. It all differs depending on the person stress can be financial, social, mental, or emotional. It can come from pressure and conflict. It can come from natural disasters, noise, and pollution. It can come from low self-esteem, an impatient and perfectionist personality, all sorts of stuff.What is it for you? If stress is a problem for you, think of something that really gets you, and then read on with it in mind perhaps there are different ways of handling your stress, not the usual massage or walk in nature. Perhaps we can prevent stress from arising in the first place.
Pain and suffering happen when you hold on to something. The stronger your attachment is to something in your life, the greater your suffering.
- Even if you still have it, you fear losing it.
- You fee the uncertainty, the unknown of not having it.
But we live in a world of things, of possessions, of people we care for, ideas (or ideals) we hold onto… and the solution is certainly not abandoning everything in our lives.
It appears the solution is to love and appreciate everything in each moment… but the next moment let go of it. Just let go of the idea of keeping… of holding on to.
Release the attachment while appreciating and loving everything.
This also works for problems that we love to hold on to, even identify with.
- Do what you need to do for the problem now, and let go
- If you can’t do anything about it right this moment, make a note on your calendar of when you can do something, and then completely let go of it
- If there’s nothing you can do about it, let go of it
This is a practice along with meditation and feeling the stillness within the chaos of life. Don’t get frustrated, let go of frustration right this moment and just breath.
Two years ago I was a bachelor spending my days doing whatever at a whim. I was a good zennist, finding tranquility in the complete quiet of solitary life.
Now I’m a husband to a beautiful wife, a father to three beautiful girls, and the caretaker of a mind full of chatter and unrest.
I now realize that I wasn’t a good zennist… I was cheating. It’s easy to be at peace and meditate when you have nothing to be responsible for and and nobody else to consider. But throw in the non-stop noise from a 6 year old girl and the unyielding pressures of supporting a family of five… well, my friend… even a zen master would start twitching regularly while conversing with his ego about the nature of sanity.
You know what, sanity is completely over-rated… just let go of the notion that you gotta hold on to sanity… it’s futile. Let go of sanity… be insane. Embrace your insanity… then just let go of it.
It’s still a daily struggle to find that tranquility, to let go of the anxieties and find that mental balance of non-judgmental being. The one thing I realize now and then is that all our anxieties and unrest are 100% in the mind. It’s possible to let go of them and feel that blissful detachment while taking steps to meet your real obligations.
I’m reminded of a book I haven’t read but has a great title: Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff–and it’s all small stuff
… by our higher selves.
Every day most find something to worry about. Sometimes we are already worried and in search of a reason to be so.
Sometimes unfortunate things happen in our lives… a loved one is sick, you lose your keys, your work falls into chaos… so many things to worry about.
Or you can choose to not worry. If you shut off your desire to control and relax your impulse to steer the ship, then quiet your mind… you will notice a pressure. This pressure is pushing you in a certain direction… this pressure is your intuition.
If we calmly follow our subtle intuition… and completely surrender our desire… all of a sudden things work out. It’s an astounding an amazing phenomenon.
Don’t pray, don’t desire… just surrender and “walk” in the direction of the subtle pressure.